{"id":5895,"date":"2011-02-18T22:01:42","date_gmt":"2011-02-19T03:01:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/365sketches.org\/?p=3641"},"modified":"2025-11-14T22:39:05","modified_gmt":"2025-11-15T03:39:05","slug":"sometimes-youre-quickly-reminded-built-dark-thick-wall-first-place-emotional-walls-cc-lemasney","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lemasney.com\/consulting\/2011\/02\/18\/sometimes-youre-quickly-reminded-built-dark-thick-wall-first-place-emotional-walls-cc-lemasney\/","title":{"rendered":"And sometimes, you&#8217;re quickly reminded why you built that dark, thick wall in the first place. On emotional walls cc-by lemasney"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"attachment_5311\" style=\"width: 810px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><a title=\"On pain and building emotional walls by John LeMasney via 365sketches.org #GIMP\" href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lemasney.com\/consulting\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/02\/20110218.png?ssl=1\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-5311\" data-attachment-id=\"5311\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/lemasney.com\/consulting\/20110218\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lemasney.com\/consulting\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/02\/20110218.png?fit=800%2C600&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"800,600\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"And sometimes, you&amp;#8217;re quickly reminded why you built that dark, thick wall in the first place. On emotional walls cc-by lemasney\" data-image-description=\"&lt;p&gt;And sometimes, you&amp;#8217;re quickly reminded why you built that dark, thick wall in the first place. On emotional walls cc-by lemasney&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;And sometimes, you&amp;#8217;re quickly reminded why you built that dark, thick wall in the first place. On emotional walls cc-by lemasney&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lemasney.com\/consulting\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/02\/20110218.png?fit=800%2C600&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"  wp-image-5311 size-full\" style=\"margin: 5px;\" title=\"And sometimes, you're quickly reminded why you built that dark, thick wall in the first place. On emotional walls cc-by lemasney\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lemasney.com\/consulting\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/02\/20110218.png?resize=800%2C600&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"And sometimes, you're quickly reminded why you built that dark, thick wall in the first place. On emotional walls cc-by lemasney\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lemasney.com\/consulting\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/02\/20110218.png?w=800&amp;ssl=1 800w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lemasney.com\/consulting\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/02\/20110218.png?resize=500%2C375&amp;ssl=1 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-5311\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">And sometimes, you&#8217;re quickly reminded why you built that dark, thick wall in the first place. On emotional walls cc-by lemasney<\/p><\/div>\n<h3>Emotional Walls<\/h3>\n<p>If you&#8217;ve ever truly loved, you&#8217;ve likely added bricks to your wall. It&#8217;s nice to peek over it most of the time, but from time to time, it&#8217;s a relief to have a\u00a0shield from the pain and despair of disappointment.<\/p>\n<p>If you like this image, please share it. If you use it, please attribute me, and thanks! (cc-by lemasney)<\/p>\n<p>pain, disappointment, fear, emotion, GIMP, GNU, GPL, open source, WordPress, postaday2011, lemasney, 365, creative commons, cc-sa, lemasney, design, open source,\u00a0<a title=\"Creative Commons\" href=\"https:\/\/creativecommons.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"homepage noopener noreferrer\">creative commons<\/a>, cc-by, typography, poster,\u00a0<a title=\"Inkscape\" href=\"https:\/\/inkscape.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"homepage noopener noreferrer\">Inkscape<\/a>,\u00a0<a title=\"GIMP\" href=\"https:\/\/www.gimp.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"homepage noopener noreferrer\">GIMP<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Look at my favorite images from this project on the\u00a0Portfolio Page<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;One reason people put up emotional walls is to manage\u00a0what happens next. But this sense of control is a myth. Because in reality, things play out like they\u2019re going to and you have far less power over other people\u00a0than you imagine (or you\u2019d like). There\u2019s a sense of If I, then she will that\u2019s also a myth. You just can\u2019t predict or control other people\u2019s behavior.&#8221; &#8211; 4 Truths About People Who Put Up (Emotional) Walls | These Little Waves, <\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>And sometimes, you&#8217;re quickly reminded why you built that dark, thick wall in the first place. 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